Hello lovelies! A couple of my blogger friends and I were chatting, and we decided to write about something many of our readers ask us about and wonder – balancing blogging and motherhood! I love to write and cultivate my blog – it provides a means for me to stay at home with my children while doing something I truly enjoy! But there are some major key points to mention when it comes to balancing my blog and being a mother.
So here’s the truth…
Starting a blog
When I first started my blog, I wasn’t aware of the amount of time and energy it would take generating, cultivating, and promoting content. So many people do it, and it looks pretty darn easy. I have always loved to write, so I figured I would be a natural! I mean, it sounds simple enough, right? You purchase hosting, a domain (or you can get one free if you sign up for a hosting plan that offers a free domain!), get your WordPress game ON, and get to writing. And that’s it, right?! You can write whatever to whoever about anything and everything while the kids are napping. Write it and the people will read. Yeah, no, sorry.
I have had to learn a lot about the blogging world, marketing, and how to fit everything into my already kind-of-crazy schedule.
My first blog failed miserably because I relied on…fate?….to gain attention on the internet and generate traffic. *FACEPALM*. Blogging takes A LOT of work. And as a mother and nanny of 4, I can tell you that it definitely doesn’t all get done during nap time. If you are going to start a blog, know that I am 100% behind you with applause, but you had better be ready to promote the living CRAP out of your blog. I consider my current employment status to be a combination of three full-time jobs:
Writing blog posts is one thing. But after all the hard work of putting together your theme, widgets, plug-ins, keywords, tags, categories, and photographing your kids for three hours because they just don’t get it that you’re trying to run your own business here and trying to make it look like you have it all together, you then have to promote everything you just did. Pinterest and Instagram have been my saving grace and a huge source of traffic for my writing and message. But creating those high-quality Pinterest images and circulating them on another platform is another time-consuming thing to do. Tailwind helps, but I sometimes find myself too busy to even schedule my pins!
Making Time For My kids
While I do focus a lot of time and energy into blogging, promoting, networking, and collaborating, I also make time for the most important and precious love there is on the planet – the love between my children and I. I can write all the pretty things I want, and look like an amazing mom/person on my social media, but if I am not being the best mother I can to my children, then what am I really doing? I would be defeating the purpose of my blog and would be missing out on my children. Choosing to write and network with other people should never take away from my children, and I strive to be the best Motherhood Blogger I can be (with Mother always ahead of Blogger).
So, with four little ones running around (if you are new here, two of them aren’t mine 😉 ), finding time to post consistently can be difficult. I try to write about my life, or topics I am currently tackling in real time (or in the near future). I recently wrote about car seat safety during winter time, because there is a lack of knowledge in that department with concerns to whether a child should wear a winter coat in their car seat, and what risks that might impose. I also included a great alternative that is safe and will still keep your little one warm.
I have one quote that really speaks to me as a mother, and really guides me on my journey as a motherhood blogger:
You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they will be a little bigger then they are today. This day is a gift. Breathe and notice. Smell and touch them; study their faces and little feet and pay attention. Relish the charms of the present. Enjoy today mama. It will be over before you know it.
I want to be present on social media so I can stay relevant in the minds of thoughts of my readers and audience. But more than that, I want to stay present in my children’s lives. With my first blog, I lost sight of that and got so caught up in making everything LOOK perfect, and my home life suffered greatly.
Finding Time To Post
Let’s get real. Writing takes a lot of time…so does promoting. Aaaaaaand, so does being a mother. My posts are at the mercy of any leftover time I might have to myself at the beginning or end of each day. Many days, I go without writing or creating, and just focus on promoting. I’d love to come up with a set schedule, but for now, I fly by the seat of my pants!
My kids come first, as does my role as mother and homemaker.
The Truth In Balancing
The truth? This is one of the hardest jobs I think I’ve ever had. But I have an extremely supportive partner (my husband), who helps me entertain the kids and tidy up the house. Without his help, I’m not sure i could juggle everything as well as I do.
I think that my blogging tends to suffer because I choose my kids every time. I sacrifice any other hobbies I might like (I actually used to SEW and crochet!) so I can focus on my home life, children, nannying, and blogging. Balancing multiple things at one time is kind of in the job description of any mother, and it’s all about hustling for the things you love in life. I hustle so I can have extra money and stay home with my children, and maybe take them out to get some froyo more than we used to (because they sure love their FRO YO, YA KNOW?). Okay, so do I.
There’s a freedom that comes with blogging and writing about the things and people I care about the most – a freeing of my soul and pent-up mental energy. Sure, it’s work, but blogging is something I’ll gladly balance to help support and provide for my little ones. But I won’t lie – balancing a blog and the rest of my life can be really difficult at times, especially when it seems like everyone else can do it with such ease. I find myself having to refrain from getting on Instagram too often because it seems like a constant reminder that I am not as perfect as everyone else looks on social media. Even though we all know that isn’t the case, I don’t tend to focus on the truth that is probably behind the lens of everyone else’s camera.
If you missed my Instagram story earlier this week, I posted a story in my car (“The Bat Van”) to chat about the helicopter moms at my sons school that were actually wearing jeans and nice shirts, while I was wearing a yellow sweatshirt, orange sweatpants smeared with peanut butter fingerprints, and a messy bun that had Graham crackers in it. That isn’t something you usually see on Instagram while everyone is busy being perfect, but I like to keep it real and try to laugh at myself ;).
Thank you so much for reading, and be sure to check out these other lovely ladies on how they balance blogging and motherhood: